Custody isn't a list of dates. It's a pattern that holds week after week, breaks sometimes, and during holidays turns into chunks that need to be split. A good calendar knows the difference between those three modes — and how to move between them without the kids feeling the friction.
In early access. Built with two-home families.
Not theory — what actually works for separated parents. None is "more right" than another — what fits depends on the kids' ages, the distance between homes, and work schedules.
One week with one parent, one week with the other, swap on the weekend. The most stable pattern, comfortable for older kids and steady work hours. The catch: a full week without seeing one parent. In Parli, this is a recurring pattern — not 26 separate entries.
Five days with one parent, two with the other, then reversed. Weekend splits. Works well for younger kids who can't go a full week without a parent. Requires the two homes to be physically close.
Two days with mom, two with dad, three rotating weekend days. Demands tight coordination of pickups and activities, but the kids see both parents every week.
No fixed pattern — agreements made a week ahead based on work, activities, and swaps. Demands a current shared calendar; otherwise it becomes friction. This is the scenario Parli was built for.
Kids are mostly with one parent; the other gets specific weekdays and every-other-weekend. This setup needs a calendar that shows both the recurring pattern and one-off visits.
One parent handles school weeks, the other handles weekends and holidays. Common when distance makes daily transitions impractical. The catch: long holidays need a separate plan.
Before asking for features from Parli — worth listing what the calendar itself needs to do.
When you agree on 7-7 or 2-2-3, the recurring schedule needs to live as a pattern — not be copied a thousand times across the calendar. Changing the pattern should be one action, not editing 52 events.
A glance at the week should show where the kids are without reading the text of every event. One color for mom, one for dad, visually, all year long.
"I have a work trip Tuesday — can we swap with Wednesday?" One change, one marker, both parents see the same picture and the history: from what to what, when, who agreed.
Parent-teacher night, half-days, school trips, parents' day. Events that aren't tied to which house — and need to appear at both, in the same form, at the same time.
Spring break, summer, winter holidays. These aren't a weekly pattern — they're chunks of days that need separate splits, locked in before the holiday starts.
Who swapped when, what was decided last month, what the pattern was three months ago. Quiet memory that lets both parents continue, even when the human one fails.
Spring break, mid-week birthdays, summer — each needs a plan separate from regular custody.
First half with one parent, second half with the other. Next year reversed. The plan is locked in February, not the night before.
The birthday falls on a day with one parent, but the other wants to celebrate too. Instead of three phone calls — one plan: breakfast with one, dinner with the other, a shared gift logged.
Two weeks without your kids is a lot. Which is exactly why it should be locked in — ideally in February, when flights can still be planned. Whatever isn't closed by April gets closed in May under pressure.
The calendar itself is not a legal document. If you have a custody agreement or court order, the calendar should reflect the daily setup that fits the agreement — not replace it. Legal questions belong to a family lawyer.
We don't flag who was late, who missed a pickup, who didn't respond. The point is to coordinate, not to build a case. If you're in active enforcement and documenting deliberately — you need a legal tool, not Parli.
The calendar records what you agreed. It doesn't propose "what's fair" or calculate "who owes more days." The split is an agreement between two parents — and the app just keeps it in one place.
Yes. You can add days one at a time without a fixed pattern — just "this week," without auto-recurrence. Once you agree on a weekly schedule, you can switch on the pattern and fill the months ahead in one action.
You can set an end date for the current pattern and a new pattern that starts after. Both parents see the end and the new start, and there's no need to edit every event individually. If something needs to change mid-period — same one-off swap that works on a normal day.
Every change is marked: who edited, when, what was there before. The other parent sees a clear notification — not a WhatsApp message that can be missed. If the change isn't acceptable, it can be rolled back and discussed. The calendar records the rhythm, it doesn't play position games.
Yes. Each child can have their own pattern. For example: the 8-year-old twins on week-on/week-off, but the 16-year-old wants flexibility around exam schedules. Each child gets their own view, and both parents see the full picture.
Patterns don't have to be symmetric. You can build a schedule that varies by week (e.g., week A = Tue-Thu with dad, week B = Mon-Wed). That's a two-week pattern that repeats — not 52 separate entries.
In early access, the calendar is meant first for parent-to-parent coordination. Down the road we'll explore an age-appropriate child view — without context that's not relevant to the child, without expense names, without messages between parents. That's a family decision we won't make for you.
Parli is in early access. If it sounds like the kind of tool your family would actually use, send us a short note and we'll write back personally.
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